1) Start by planning a three-and-a-half-week vacation home. It helps to book your plane tickets early, but it’s okay if they cost a pretty penny. It’ll be worth it for this one day alone. You’ll see.
2) When you arrive, start off by being grumpy and critical because you’re an old lady who’s stuck in her ways, spends vast stretches of time talking only to houseplants and computers, and is thoroughly unused to being around people or exercising any meaningful degree of social grace. (This step is optional, but it’s possible that you may not be able to avoid it.)
3) The night before, arrange to have breakfast with Ross and your parents. (If you have not already obtained a Ross for this stage of the game, good luck. They are rare in the wild.)
4) On the morning of, get up early, before the little monsters wake up. Assemble Ross and parents. Walk five minutes and have really yummy roti prata and kopi o. Shovel food into your mouth. Yawn. Stretch.
5) Walk home and find your sister and the babies playing in the garden. Receive hugs and kisses from the babies. They are miffed at being left behind, but it’s amazing how mollifying an offer to take everyone to the beach will be.
6) Pile everyone and a bicycle into the bus your sister now drives, and head to the beach. Watch Asher’s face crunch into concentration as he learns how to bike down a steep spiral slope, and Sophie’s toes squirm and squiggle when they are dangled in the soft rush of the sea. At the end, procure ice-cream. Wash all feet. Pile home.
7) Wait for your friend June to wake up so she can come and pick you and Ross up for lunch. Pop fish vadai into your mouth. Mop up butter chicken, palak paneer, and dal with garlic naan that leaves you with uncomfortably rich burps for the rest of the afternoon. Finish lunch with masala tea. Drag June back to the house and continue the warm, easy conversation you have been having (the kind you can only have with someone who is your polar opposite when you have known them since you were thirteen) until it is almost five. Kiss June on the cheek and promise to see her on Monday.
8) Take a walk with Ross. On the way back (this is imperative), get caught in a rainstorm that turns the sky the color of pale ink. Stroll through the storm, which is warm and smells wonderful because this is Singapore and in Singapore the rain is a gift.
9) At 6:45, go out for dinner. Choose a place you used to go to on special occasions when you were little, and order the same dish you always did then. Smile when your whole family does the same. Have two desserts, and make sure they’re both the kind that get set on fire.
If you are not enjoying yourself by this time, I do not know how to help you.
10) In the car on the way home, sit next to Asher, who is exhausted and therefore nothing but smiles, silly conversation, and cuddles. Smoosh him a lot. When you are almost home, there is a chance—just a chance—that he will suddenly turn to you, his face two centimeters from your own, and say, at the end of a giggle, “You know, I feel like kissing you now.”
This sentence will make up for every tantrum he has thrown in the last three weeks, but DO NOT TELL HIM SO. Just kiss him back.
11) Write a post as your Ross (did you manage to get one?) mumbles sleepily at you, and voila.
Nothing to it.








